Remember with gratitude!

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Of course that I am writing about patience, a thoughtful question is does it have to do with anything else easier to practice in order to be patient? Practicing patience itself might be somehow difficult and as I learned in OT, we don’t need to only focus on our goals, we can find other ways to reach them indirectly, be creative and enjoy the journey.

As I am reading and investigating both in our old Persian and Arabic literatures to know more about the religious and moral notes on patience, I encountered with a book called “Ihya’ ulum al-din” means “Revival of Religious Sciences” by Al-Ghazali http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Al-Ghazali that was written in 492 A.D and there in the book Exactly one chapter was called ” patience and gratitude ” Mentioned that they are two halves of faith which are also attributes of the almighty God.

And to my surprise there is a research study I googled on Internet with this topic “ want to be more patient? Practice gratitude! “ You can read the article here at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/02/patience-gratitude_n_5064604.html

well! By knowing what has written in religious books that was proved through research studies Now its your job to find things in your life to be thankful for…

Distinguish & identify the triggers!

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This is a journey that leads to a better understanding of ourselves and during the movement we need to be aware of our inner feelings, by asking questions like: what makes us to treat like what an impatient person does? In which situation we loose our temper?

Sometimes it’s like you need to do some trial and errors to find out what really can regulate your inside brain’s pressure, That really helps when you don’t want to avoid the trigger but you feel that you have to because that’s the present trigger you need to solve through your calmness.

The triggers are very important because by handling them you can feel a thoroughly soothing and calming brain to enjoy life God gave you in this world using your wisdom.

Yeah the more you be aware of what brings an impatient moments the better you want to handle them to breath peacefully.

Start this today as a practice, first you distinguish the trigger then find a way to solve the problem and the time you feel happiness inside that joy will help you to repeat the circle.

In my perspective the emotional Triggers are good! Do not consider them as negative points in your cognitive life, when you rethink about them thoughtfully you will find how.

How do you react when you are angry?

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Please consider that when you are angry you loose your patience , it’s because in this situation the right Side of your brain, the emotional part, is more activated.

Try to listen to your inner voice when you are angry, what you hear is not a positive or calming voice though !

Being angry is not something you may have the skill to avoid or suppress but the reaction to it is something that should be in your control , try to be patient and to pause before replying to something or someone that makes you angry. So the answer is we try not to react at all when we are angry ! Hush and be aware of your behavior my friend.

Are you emotionally sensitive ?!!

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I was thinking about a possible connection between the sensory processing disorder (SPD) and being impatient so that I wrote a note for my blog & decided to send it to my friend (pen-friend) lindsey Biel who is an expert in SPD and I am very thankful for her clarification to write the difference between the two and wanted to post it here ! I love my lindsey 🙂
This is her reply :

Hello my dear –

Thank you for thinking of me regarding your blog post. Writing about patience is very important. Patience is something we all need to cultivate, especially in a world when we have so much to do and so many sources of demand – children, work, housekeeping, keeping up with friends on Facebook!

I think it’s important to review what SPD is and what patience is. SPD is a neurological condition in which the nervous system (brain and body) have difficulty using sensory input to feel and function at your best. A person may be hypersensitive or hypo(under) sensitive to sights, sounds, touch, smell, taste, or movement experiences. Yes, a person may have difficulty maintaining a calm, well-regulated state when she or he has SPD.

Being impatient or patient is more of an emotional state one that is most related to ability to tolerate frustration, or not having one’s needs met quickly. There is a difference between sensory sensitivity and emotional sensitivity.

A person may be oversensitive to a certain frequency of sound – this happens in the auditory portions of the brain and there is an emotional component in that the person then becomes afraid and avoidant of that sound

A person may be oversensitive to a friend who is always late for a meeting – this happens in the emotional center of the brain (the Limbic system)

A person may be undersensitive to touch, craving more input to really feel it. This happens in the neural pathways for touch and also in the limbic system as the person has an emotional response to both the craving and the pleasure of receiving

A person may be under sensitive emotionally and not be a compassionate person. Again this is an emotional/limbic/sometimes language issue.

One of the most important lessons of neurology is that our brains ARE flexible enough for change. The term is neural plasticity. Every time we learn something new we change our flexible brains.

There are things a person can teach themselves to increase their calm and patience. These include deep breathing and meditation. Therapy can be helpful when it directly addresses the underlying cause of impatience/frustration.

LINDSEY BIEL, M.A., OTR/L
Occupational Therapist
Author, Sensory Processing Challenges: Effective Clinical Work with Kids & Teens
Co-author, Raising a Sensory Smart Child, foreword by Temple Grandin
http://www.sensorysmarts.com
www. sensoryprocessingchallenges.com

Make yourself busy

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I want to introduce an important strategy to you and me to enjoy while we are practicing patience. It’s what the topic tell you about , ” make yourself busy ” and be far from what makes you behave impatiently.

The photo that I uploaded here recommends lots of activity to shift your attention from what irritates you to something you may like to focus and enjoy.

Think about the ways that make you closer to this goal. That would be your mission. think about things like : What are you interested in ? What are those needs still you want to fulfill in your life? What do you want to do with your children ? What makes you happy ?

Sometimes you need to do what you love all by your side, but you may love to do things in a team or within a group.

Acceptance , the first step !

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Believe it or not , everything starts from within even being patient !

I was reading about patience that suddenly this wise quote grabbed my attention “Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself.” (Saint Frances de Sales).

Yeah got it ? Think about it. You are the one who is responsible for all the current weaknesses in your life , can you just accept it ? so listen up to what your mind, body and your experiences tell you about !

it would be a temporary disability so it’s really a wise choice to accept it now and to do something about it. It’s a problem you have to solve it in order to enjoy more the beauty of living in this modern life.

What you need to know is that nobody even your close family member or friend can do anything for you , even they would rather scape from this behavior of impatience of yours.

Yeah journey starts the day you accept that you are the one who can make a change because you deserve a life in peace of mind, it’s a gift for believers and thinkers.

Of course that you can get a consultant from a professional in this field.

Please Don’t worry at all it’s a process that will manipulate some important parts of your brain you have never discovered. Of course that It takes time.

So be patient with yourself my friend

The art of thinking before acting (pause)

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Repeat after me ” always think before you act “: it’s far more better for your inner peace for your emotional regulation.

You may remember a repeated mistake that you just can’t control your emotions; you are full of excitements from your head to the toe! You want to release the emotion when you hear provocative news, you act impulsively can’t hold your tongue to keep the secret within yourself, whatever it would be important or unimportant.

If it does, you need to know that you come to a good place into your empowerment by visiting my blog because you are among those I am writing to! Welcome again 🙂

Well, I think the awareness is shaped in your mind; you can even count the moments you act without thinking, how many times have you grown impatient? That’s because the strong emotion won against the weakness of controlling your behavior.

But don’t lose hope, the good news is that we are here to train and educate that weak patience muscle step by step.

Now tell me, are you ready for the journey? The result is just amazing and gradually you will be aware about the changes that happened inside you so that you will be motivated to continue in this journey with open arms.

I am telling you that you just need to generalize this “thinking before acting” lesson in each daily activity of your life. For example you are about to reply your friends text message or like her new photo he has shared on Facebook or whatever, but this time please pause and stop a bit before replying, you may need to omit some words or you might not want to send anything at all, accept it as a daily schedule to practice.

Here I need to add that , “pause” has the informal meaning of Patience inside in Arabic language.

I can add a quote of prophet Mohammad (pbuh) to sum up my note in an spiritual way: one hour of thinking is worth a thousand year of worship!

Patience is needed !

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For a variety of reasons, I have decided to think, to read, to write and to do a research study in order to expand my knowledge on the virtue “patience”. What I am going to write in this websites comes from my occupational therapy and psychology background that I was graduated from and of course my spiritual view point which I am interested in.

In our holy books like Quran and also through Persian ancient literatures such as Rumi’s poems or Feize Kashani, Abū Ḥāmid Muḥammad ibn Muḥammad al-Ghazālī and Fazel Naraghi’s books, there are lots of clear examples that they point to the topic of patience. I can say that only in Quran the Arabic equivalent of Patience that is “Sabr” is mentioned around 80 times alone, maybe to emphasis how it is good for our soul & life.

Anyhow you can feel the lack of patience where you are living or working in our modern society. It is like people did not achieve this very important developmental milestone or there was no childhood modeling or any environmental role model for them to acquire at all. This is why still our brain parts responsible for this competency is less activated living in an instant gratification life.

I am writing to give you and me the awareness that leads to action of practicing patience. I know that you want to help your brain to use one of its highest function.

All we need to know during our journey is to gradually train our weak patience muscle and be hopeful to reach our goal.